This question came up in this morning’s study group. Can you ‘just’ pick your own beliefs so that they suit you? I would say – yes. There is no need to pick a God (i.e. a faith) that makes you feel miserable. Or guilty. Or powerless and insignificant.
Only if we are fully ourselves ad happy with it can we truly share the gifts. I do not believe in ‘being good’ because God asks us to. I want to ‘pick’ a God/faith that mirrors (or is it me mirroring?) my ethical beliefs. To me, it has to make sense. I cannot see sense in putting people down and telling them that they are not enough (not good enough, not trying hard enough …).
The other question, which came up yesterday, was about God’s grace – are there any conditions? Do you have to be good, trying hard, chaste, to receive God’s grace? My answer is a definite NO. What kind of God would be sitting there with a checklist to see if you did everything ‘right’? And what happened to ‘free will’? God’s grace is for everyone, even if you are naughty or ‘bad’, even if you could have known better.
If I only do good things because God / the church told me – how honest is that? I would want to be judged in the end (if I were to believe in the last judgement) by my own standards. I think you cannot ask for more than that people behave according to their own beliefs. Not out of fear! What a poor God that would be, if doing good would be enforced by fear of the judgement. And again, it defies the idea of having free will.
Overall, I think everyone can decide on their own. If you want a punishing God – well, if that is really helpfull for you – go for it. I prefer a loving God, no strings attached.